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More About Friction and Life September 5, 2017

Posted by Peter Varhol in Technology and Culture.
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Apparently the next wave of getting friction out of our lives is to text people we are visiting, rather than ringing a doorbell (paywall).  It seems that doorbells disturb people (okay, in particular young people).  In some cases apparently seriously.

I’m ambivalent about this.  As one generation passes on to the next, customs change, and it is entirely likely that texting to let someone know you are outside of their door will become the new normal.  On the surface, it may not be a bad thing.

But there’s always a but.  It turns out that texting someone is an excuse for not seeing someone physically.  And there are plenty of places where I go that I may not know the phone number of the person inside.

But more about friction in general.  Friction is the difference between us as individuals gliding through life unimpeded, or having some roadblocks that prevent us from doing some of what we would like.  None of us like friction.  All of us need it.

Whatever else I may doubt, I am certain that friction is an essential part of a rich and fulfilling life.

If you are afraid of something, then there is good reason to face it.

First, friction teaches us patience and tolerance.  It teaches how to wait for what we decide is important in life.

Second, it teaches us what is important in our lives.  We don’t know what is important unless we have to work for it.

Third, it teaches us that we may have to change our needs and goals, based on the feedback we get in life.

Many of the Silicon Valley startups today are primarily about getting rid of friction in our lives.  Uber (especially), Blue Apron, really just about any phone app-based startup is about making our daily existence easier.

You heard it here first, folks.  Easier is good, but we also need to work, even for the daily chores that seem like they should be easier.  We may have to call for a cab, or look up a menu and pick up a meal.  Over the course of our lives, we learn many life lessons from experiences like that.

Do me a favor this week.  Try the doorbell.

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1. Helen - September 6, 2017

ha – we only just got a doorbell recently. Most of our friends just walk in; no one has ever texted first. I find the doorbell extremely annoying because it sets the dog off on a barking jag, if the mere presence of an unknown car in the driveway has not already done so.

Peter Varhol - September 14, 2017

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